Kimberly Shannon Murphy’s Stunt Career

• Kimberly’s incredible experiences as a Hollywood stuntwoman, including being run over by a car, thrown out of a window, and falling off a roof.
• A pivotal moment when she got badly hurt on the set of “I Am Legend,” which led her to seek help for her trauma.

Childhood Trauma and Healing

• Kimberly’s journey of self-discovery and healing from the trauma of childhood abuse by her grandfather, who was a sociopath and sexually abused her and her siblings.
• The long-lasting impact of the abuse, including being diagnosed with herpes at a young age and dealing with the betrayal of family members who knew but did nothing.
• The confusion and relief she felt upon her abuser’s death.

Therapy and Psychedelic Work

• Kimberly’s transformative experience with psychedelic therapy, guided by trauma expert Gabor Maté.
• The importance of understanding that primary trauma often stems from a lack of adult support and connection.
• The role of therapy and psychedelic work in addressing and healing deep-rooted trauma.

Family Dynamics and Societal Challenges

• The complex family dynamics and the impact of her mother’s and aunt’s experiences with abuse.
• The societal challenge of dealing with powerful individuals who perpetrate abuse and are celebrated despite their despicable actions.
• Joe Polish shares his own experiences with trauma and how it influenced his perspective on life and healing.

Emotional and Physical Resilience

• How Kimberly used the adrenaline rush from stunt work to momentarily escape the pain of her childhood trauma.
• The importance of finding balance between the thrill of her job and the need for emotional healing.
• The significance of resilience and finding strength in the face of adversity.

Harvey Weinstein Connection

• Joe Polish: Talks about his time as Harvey Weinstein’s sober coach.
• Discussion: The complexities of helping someone with a dark past and the challenges involved in maintaining boundaries and compassion.

Forgiveness and Healing

• Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Shares her views on forgiveness, especially in the context of her family’s abuse.
  • Emphasizes that forgiveness is not always necessary for healing.
  • Differentiates between true apologies and empty words.

Inner Child Work

• Inner Child Definition: Describes inner child work and its importance in the healing process.
  • Explains how traumatic experiences can cause disconnection from one’s inner child.
  • Emphasizes the need to reconnect with and heal the inner child to overcome trauma.

Psychedelic Therapy

• Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Discusses the role of psychedelics in her healing journey.
  • Describes how psychedelic experiences helped unlock repressed memories and facilitate deeper healing.
  • Shares a specific memory related to her aversion to indoor plants and how psychedelic therapy helped her overcome this.

Parenting and Trauma

• Impact on Parenting: Talks about how her trauma influenced her parenting decisions and the importance of breaking the cycle for her daughter.
  • Highlights the importance of allowing her daughter to express herself freely.

Advice to Abusers and the Abused

• Joe Polish: Asks Kimberly what advice she would give to abusers and those who have been abused.
• Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Emphasizes the importance of understanding one’s own childhood wounds and seeking help.
  • Encourages curiosity and self-exploration to uncover and address deep-seated issues.

Writing “Glimmer”

• About the Book: Discusses her memoir, “Glimmer,” and its purpose.
  • Aimed at helping survivors of trauma and those who know someone affected by it.
  • Crafted to avoid triggering readers while providing a gripping and empathetic narrative.
  • Receives high praise from readers and experts alike.

Challenges of Public Disclosure

• Personal Impact: Shares the emotional toll of publicly sharing her story and the support she’s received.
  • Plans to take a break after her event with Gabor Maté in October.

Relationship Dynamics

• Marital Insights: Talks about the challenges of maintaining a healthy relationship while dealing with trauma.
  • Credits her husband for his normalcy and support.

Hollywood Insights

• Industry Perspective: Reflects on her experiences in Hollywood as a stuntwoman and now as a coordinator.
  • Acknowledges the prevalence of dysfunction in the industry but also highlights the presence of grounded, kind individuals.

Finding Peace and Closure

• Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Discusses her perspective on peace and closure.
  • Believes in a spiritual sense that we choose our paths in life.
  • Finds immense peace and purpose through her daughter.
  • Emphasizes the importance of being authentic to oneself.

Attachment vs. Authenticity

• Discussion: Explores the concept of attachment versus authenticity, drawing from Gabor Maté’s work.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Shares her struggles with unhealthy attachments and trauma bonds within her family.
  • Emphasizes the importance of walking away from toxic relationships to maintain authenticity.

Navigating the Author, Speaker, Influencer Space

• Joe Polish: Mentions the complexities of navigating the author, speaker, and influencer space.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Talks about her upcoming event with Gabor Maté and her experiences in this space.
  • Shares her excitement and disbelief at the opportunities that have come her way.

Event with Gabor Maté

• Details: Discusses the event “Return to Self: Navigating Attachment and Authenticity” in Santa Monica on October 6.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Describes the event as a full-day experience focused on healing and authenticity.

Connection and Community

• Joe Polish: Reflects on the importance of connection and community in healing.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Highlights how starting conversations about taboo topics like incest can help others heal and reconnect.

Overcoming Trauma and Abuse

• Discussion: Addresses how to break the cycle of abuse and silence surrounding traumatic experiences.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Emphasizes not passing trauma onto children or others.
  • Stresses the importance of healing and being true to oneself.

Challenges of Public Disclosure

• Joe Polish: Discusses the challenges of sharing personal stories publicly.
  • Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Advocates for empathy towards those who might be using their stories for attention.
  • Encourages authenticity and self-awareness in sharing one’s story.

Role of Empathy and Compassion

• Kimberly Shannon Murphy: Shares how empathy and compassion have helped her navigate her healing journey.
  • Recognizes the pain behind manipulative behaviors in others.

Recommendations and Final Thoughts

• Joe Polish: Recommends Kimberly Shannon Murphy’s book “Glimmer” for its powerful insights and potential to help others.
  • Encourages listeners to attend her event with Gabor Maté for a transformative experience.

Resources

• Watch This Interview on YouTube
• Glimmer: A Story of Survival, Hope, and Healing by Kimberly Shannon Murphy
• KimberlyShannonMurphy.com
• The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté MD
•  An In-Person, Interactive & Intimate Conversation With Dr. Gabor Maté and Kimberly Shannon Murphy – Return to Self: Navigating Attachment and Authenticity with Dr. Gabor Maté & Kimberly Shannon Murphy
• GeniusRecovery.org
• What’s in It for Them?: 9 Genius Networking Principles to Get What You Want by Helping Others Get What They Want by Joe Polish